“Anything I can do…anything at all,” we say to the grieving friend, then leave it at that, telling ourselves we’ll be called if we’re really needed. A crucial time to care for God’s family is when one of them has passed from this Earth. Those who are left behind are in too much pain to know what help to ask for, although there is an overwhelming list of tasks that need to be done. In a way, saying “call me if there’s anything I can do” puts an additional burden on the bereaved, because she may feel she should give you a task so you feel better. What can you do? Mainly, be very specific in what you offer—to help make arrangements at the funeral home or, later on, to drop off the loved one’s belongings at the charity he supported. This conveys the message that you really do care, that you can be depended on for the help and friendship she needs whenever she needs it.